What to Do First After Getting Engaged
You said yes — now what?
Before you get lost in Pinterest boards and group texts, let’s talk about the steps that actually set your wedding up for success. These are the moves I guide every couple through in the first few weeks after they get engaged.
Step 1: Celebrate and Take It In
You don’t need to start planning the second the ring is on your finger. Have a celebratory dinner, pop champagne, share the news, and soak it in. You only get to be “just engaged” once.
Step 2: Talk About Your Priorities
Before venues, colors, or guest lists, ask each other:
What do we want our wedding to feel like?
Do we imagine a big party, a tent in the Berkshires, or an intimate weekend?
What matters most: guest experience, design, food, or photos?
Step 3: Set a Real Budget
This isn’t the fun step, but it’s the step that makes everything easier. AND don’t go off of The Knot or Wedding Wire, ask around, do your research.
Decide your total investment
Consider contributions from family
Leave room for the “unexpected” (because there’s always something)
Step 4: Draft a Guest List
Even a rough list will help:
Estimate how many people you’d invite today vs. your ideal size
Your guest count drives your venue choice and budget
Step 5: Secure Your Venue and Date
Popular dates and venues in the Hudson Valley, Berkshires, and Capital Region book 12–18 months in advance.
Book your venue first → then your planner (if you only need partial planning)
Or book your planner early → so they can guide venue tours, vendor priorities and contracts
Step 6: Consider Hiring a Planner Early
Even a single planning session can save you months of stress. A planner can:
Help you avoid costly mistakes
Recommend trusted vendors
Map your next 3–6 months so you feel clear
Planning your wedding should feel exciting, not overwhelming. If you want clarity and a plan that fits your life, let’s talk.
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